Aita for being upset at my dad for giving my room to my stepsister. I have always just sort of tolerated her.

Aita for being upset at my dad for giving my room to my stepsister I was shocked, because I’ve tried really hard not to burden them as much as I could. My sister texted me the same thing and my other sister said that I’m playing the victim when the real victims are them and their kids. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be the asshole for screaming at my husband and not accepting his and lis late wife’s wishes for who should inherit the house I don't LIKE being driven out by my dad-- I like being around people, even if I'm just coexisting with them. My dad already knew about the money my mom left me but he had no idea about the rest. I wanted to start looking for collleges now to be better prepared but turns i have no money left, I'm literally sobbing while writing this my parents took my entire money and gave it to my sister. I (28M) am an only child. I do all my school work online now that they school is closed, and I've never had my own computer and have always used the family computer in I’ll be honest, if everything was great in your home and everyone got along then sharing a room wouldn’t have been enough to make your daughter not want to live with you. Your 'dad' is a dick. I have severe anxiety and an ed, he's seen me have multiple anxiety attacks but he doesn't pay them any mind. One year for Christmas (and I know I am dating myself here), my dad bought my mom a Salad Shooter as her gift because it had just come out and was all the rage. nothing ever changed. I think what really bothers me is that when his only daughter found out about me, she decided to meet me and has been in my life ever since but him, my father, didn’t care enough to do the same. You learn very quick when you grow up with someone like this. I spoke to my dad like many of you suggested, and told him the truth about what my childhood was like due to his emotional absence. My mom ended up sending him a long text message saying that it was unfair that everyone was invited but me, so he knew I was upset about it. He barely pays attention to me. My brother was never really close to our dad and always said he disliked our dad. Your dad sounds like my dad, and they are amazing. My mother built her entire life around her abusive parents, their needs, and their wants always trumped ours. My mom sent a similar text as well. " I was pretty upset and I left the room, and as I was leaving he called after me asking "Why are you so angry for?" Later, my mother came to my room to have a conversation with my sister who was very upset about something separate. Your daughter goes to school and works. Emma and my stepmom started insisting I had to share the college funds with Emma, otherwise it wouldn’t be fair. She’s a teenager. 8 years later and I’m heated still. My step-sister has a habit of entering my room and touching/ taking my stuff without my permission, It got to the point where I had to change my lock and constantly lock my room. What they said made me very upset so I Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I asked her what she meant, and she admitted my stepdad had given the money to my stepsister. It is worth mentioning that I hardly know these people so they don't really mean anything to me specifically. I had to raise my sister when she was 13/14 and I was 19 and it made me uncomfortable when people my age would say things like “I’m proud of you” You were genuinely happy for her and that’s what matters. He was suppose to go Wednesday , my wife’s mother and father got in a car accident. Isobel got in the middle asking me not to talk to my dad like that and my wife tried to calm me down. Wife was hesitant at first and felt like my stepson would be upset and feel like he’s being pushed aside, but I convinced her that my daughter needed the space more so she ultimately agreed. Then my dad and Jane said "that was mean and I have a full anyway so I should share". When I pointed its been four weeks, he again asked for my patience. It's humiliating to have to be driven away by my dad's volume issues. My dad is very much the same as OP’s dad and the only thing I can count on my dad for is finding a way to “be right”. Minor irritation, whatever. the fact that they didn’t even want to do that Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my husbands his trips with his friend were like he was “abandoning me with the kids”; this might make me the asshole because it’s an unfair thing to say when I The story begins with me having a shared room with my brother, and him having a room inside mine. He throws many birthday parties for them. I get that you put the children first, but AITA for being upset about being forgotten? I think I might be the AH because of being more focused on the presents then on the family He started ranting at me that we needed to grow up and make peace and if we didn’t want to talk to each other fine but not being able to be in the same room was nuts. My grandma aka mom's mom died recently and I found out she had left a sizable amount of money for me. I do not have an ongoing relationship with my stepsister. He just watches movies He took my brother (executor) aside and I overheard him asking how much my mom was giving to the church in her will. Both of us were fine with it and we’re just glad they all are living comfortably. Later that night my brother and dad Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. So I never regarded her daughter as my niece and I never planned to be an overly involved figure. TL;DR: I got mad at my mother after she told me I had to give up my bedroom and give it to my stepdad. I had no idea what was happening and I was getting something in my purse in that room. My brother said he was dodging questions from them and dad was seething. I also don’t what to have people in my room with all my stuff with a couple that I have never met before. My son applied to a great school for architecture. Then in November my dad showed up and told me he wanted to talk. I even gad to move out of my room for 8 months once and have my bed being used by strangers the whole time. I wasn't angry more hurt that she didn't do anything for me. My brother suggested I sleep with my mom and my sister and her husband take my room and I am very upset. We never formed any kind of bond and I only ever saw her if I was visiting my dad which already was once in a while. She's been there for me my entire life, even through her own misery. The last time she got me a gift was 1 year ago last father's day. If no one else comes, but she's there, I'll be happy. He kept showing up where I was to talk. I played sports and my dad was my coach so I had a much closer relationship to him then my mom. I told her that I love her and was so grateful OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I expressed being upset at my parents and threatening to get my own room because they won’t let my "AITA for refusing to help my parents after they gave my sister their house?" I (33M) have always had a complicated relationship with my parents. So I paid for all my own stuff starting at age 16. I 100% understand that it is a lot of money but because disability pays you back pay from when you first applied I'm going to have over $20,000 once I get on disability which should be soon within the next year give or take. I was her only kid. I told dad what happened and he told me I should just open the gifts. I kicked her out. My ex promised to help our son with college, and my dad always told me he'd take care of his only grandchild tuition. I still haven't been there since. Exactly this. What they said made me very upset so I My dad is a doctor who makes over $100,000 a year because he also teaches other doctors, and I pay for my own food because I have SNAP. I have always just sort of tolerated her. She berated me real bad for that and mom told her to never contact me again when she heard it. I let her know that I am upset and she gets mad at me telling me that as my mom she will always interfere with my life and that she couldn’t stand the mess anymore, that if I want to be treated like an I might be the AH here, but I told them that is the job of a parent is to provide for their children. My parents were best friends and started dating when they were 17. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like I might be TA because I acted completely out of anger without considering if my dad and sister would change their minds and attend on time. My step dad has been getting into things that are not his. ” I kinda saw red at this and told him to stfu and that my mom gave me the money coz dad was an adulterer. And the rent they charged me was minor. We ended up switching rooms this week, freshly painted them and my wife did some shopping for stepson’s new room so he’d feel special. It's about being upset about the ultimatum he threw and still being upset even when he apologized for it. Tried to appease/ diffuse the situation by apologising. Last month, my dad and stepmom announced that they are having another baby and my stepsisters flipped the fuck out. And that is over the line for me. " My aunt and grandma were PISSED at my dad and brother and they totally got reamed at the dinner table. Edit: I don't make a big issue of not liking his girlfriend or the kids but it's just known that they aren't my favourite people in the world, the last time I saw the kids we actually got on quite well. AITA? Edit: Got the day wrong. If anything he made a turn too soon, giving you the advantage of already knowing his future plans. You’ll be fine. He got in first try. I'm going to take my dad up on his offer not to come and let my sisters know they're welcome not to either. (I'm still living with them. One time at Christmas, I asked Sasha and my cousins why they insist on being so terrible to Amy. I got a scholarship. I think he's lashed out at you, because he knows you're right but he's not ready to admit that. My room was taken over by my step sister unexpectedly, I honestly could've reacted better but seeing all of this really upset me, I yelled at my dad telling him "that he's a worthless father AITA for being upset for having to give up my room? : r/AmItheAsshole. When she was dying. I waited till my dad came and just sneak out of the house. Not university. I was venting about it on the phone to my dad earlier, and my dad is upset for me and even more upset with himself that he can't help me get it fixed, but he's also angry with my stepsister for breaking it. good for her I guess. Then he said "Why, he's being a (slur). My step mother passed away a few years ago. BUTnow he's getting into my sons stuff. Backstory: I They said I ruined Christmas and made my parents upset cause I left. When I came back and My dad bought his house with my step mother when I was 18 and Keith was 16. I live with my parents and work for my dad. My dad listened and said that he acknowledged my situation. Giving money to raise and educate you is the bare minimum. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for blowing up on my daughter’s friend for excluding her from her group when she was bringing over some food for my daughter, which makes me I understand where she’s coming from, but it did sting a little. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: During a fight with my stepsiblings and half sister I exploded and told them I hope their dad dies and that they end up miserable because they deserve it for how they have It's been nearly 2 1/2 years since my dad died. I have never been mean to Sharon. My aunt asked my dad why I was so upset, and when he didn't know I told my aunt, "It's just lady reasons according to dad and brother. My sister was the party animal and she got pregnant at 18 , my parents took care of everything , she still live with us with no father in picture. My room is my only safe space and they don’t respect that. I told him each of our kids has his last name, which was more than my dad got, so he should be happy about that. My brother has three kids ages 4 and under and my stepsister has a 7 month old. My parents had my baby brother when they were 42(my dad) and 39 (my mom). When I was 19 I heard that dad's stepson had died. In college I met my wife and we got married this past June. My stepmom told me I should have just answered the question and moved on but I made it seem like I didn't love them. They were both angry with me for being in that room. They thought they were done after 3 girls - so the extra kid was a surprise!. My stepdad and mom haven’t saved much for Maddie and her college fund will barely cover two years of tuition, less if she goes to her dream I had a similar situation happen when I left the nest. She was incredibly upset, and he didn't seem to understand that no, that wasn't a gift for her; it was something she would use to prepare food for other people. Here's where I might be the asshole. I love my Dad. My Dad was terminally ill, and still made it to my wedding. My mum's my best friend. After a few failed relationships This morning my dad confronted me and told me I needed to stop guilt tripping people. When I was 12 my parents divorced when my dad found out my mom cheated on him. But life goes on regardless. I told him before it would make me mad if that was ever suggested. The same applies for my sisters. . It was a whole "thing" and I could tell they were super embarrassed. After getting annoyed with him I agreed to meet him for a coffee. My face is really expressive and I struggle with hiding my emotions, so I just tried to be by myself. So AITA for not giving up my room for one night even though I’m the host and they are the guests? Edit: I’m 15F and my brother is 12M. Hate him. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I was brutally honest to my dad and his wife when I told them I did not love my stepsister and I did not want to be her protective big brother. They said that no one had a problem with how they treat Amy, since my dad still treated them the same. My dad came back out of his room after packing for the trip, grabbed the remote from my mom, and turned the volume all the way up My problem is, that I didnt get anything from my siblings, which I think is unfair since my sister received hers until she graduates around age 26. Recently, my door started having an issue where the lock would no longer work, leaving me to go buy a new lock right after getting out of work. Eventually I just I(17f) usually stay at my father's during the weekdays for school after spending weekends with my biological mother and step-dad. My mom ended up taking my room because of my dad’s loud snoring and my grandma took my brother’s room. The cousins always ask for financial and emotional help, because he is so giving. AITA? Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I shut the door in his face. My aunt was the one who mentioned it. My dad told me I need to stop acting like this and I came across and very entitled and selfish. My grandparents are going to pay my college tuition. Growing up, my younger sister, Lily (30F), My mom could not say no to her mother and dragged my father and us into the whole mess. Step dad asked how my step brother walked into the room when it was supposed to be locked. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I may be an asshole for not sharing the inheritance with my sibling because they did go through hardship with having my dad as a father, my dad wasn't the best dad and At least now it won't be a surprise and you're aware of the signs. AITA? NTA It sounds to me like she’s still not comfortable accepting the reality she faced. It was the day before-not actually Christmas Day. This is all I got 🥇🥇🥇🥇🥇🥇. $300 a month. Am I wrong for being upset about it? My wife said I have zero ground to stand on, because for the past several mothers day and birthdays of hers, I've worked and she hasn't been able to do anything that she has wanted to do (her most recent employer gives ALL mom's mother's day off and ALL dad's father's day off, as well as all birthdays, so Dad has me (18m) and his wife has Ellie (17f who will be 18 in a week). I use air quotes as it really does not sound like he has been much of a Dad. My parents said that since I was earning adult money I could take in adult responsibilities. My mum's world crumbled, but other people's didn't. (I picked up flowers I planted from our small garden that I take care I got upset and asked her again and she told me that they couldn’t help with the wedding. From OP ^ He didn't say, "I'm upset you feel like you can't talk to me," he went on to give the cold shoulder to both his wife and son for talking to each other instead of him, by his own admission. She was 19. My mum goes to a bereavement group once a month to be with others who are in the same situation, but doesn't make it other people's problem. then he got angry and complained to our parents that I'm being disrespectful My mom asked me to move into the basement but my dad is on my side and told my Edit: Since people don't seem to realize i was asking about general upset. My mom died in her sleep when I was only 6 months old. Also, I don’t think my mom realizes that it’s not about the presents themselves. So, now being engaged, I've taken everything in. AITA for not giving up my room to a couple so they have more space? you are nowhere in the wrong for being annoyed about the way they treated you, and the two of them should be ashamed of themselves for manipulating the situation (and by extension, your father) once they got called out for their nasty behavior. My oldest sister was 16 at the time and mortified that our parents were pregnant! My sisters and I take after our dad - fair skin, grey green eyes and curly ash hair. He texted her without my knowledge But I sleep on a mattress on the floor which isn’t much different that the alternative beds. Further Edit: Alright. The day after they got there, my dad sent me pictures and videos of everyone having fun. I just started hiding my personal stuff in my room. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My parents divorced when I was 12yrs old. I get very upset because I previously have told my mom that I did not want anyone in my room without asking me, and I had already refused offers for others to clean my room before. We also have a guest bedroom downstairs, which is being occupied by another guest. My dad started to bring up how I had a nest egg and my mom babied me. Her mom has this cot/bed thing she brought by my dads for her but somehow I woke up in the middle of the night and she was in my bed. My mom married my step dad when I was 14 and my dad just married my stepmom early last year. He hasn't said anything else about it since, so maybe try that tactic. She was in an abusive relationship with my dad on and off for 13 years and when they finally got divorced she immediately started dating again. AITA for being upset with my dad for eating my food . YTA, not for being enraged at your dad, but for saying all that in front of your half-brother, (not your stepbrother by the way) who is completely innocent in all this, as innocent as 8-year-old you were when your dad created this mess. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. At my own mom’s house. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I am the asshole because I should be grateful to get my room cleaned and for snapping at my dad, but at the same time I didn't ask for it and I am old NTA. My (17F) dad died when I was three and left me a substantial amount of money. NTA for being mad, but you really need to think what your future holds if you marry this person who thinks that behaviour is "just a joke" and dismisses you. I'm sad, my brother is sad, my mum misses him everyday. I plan to clean my room. We weren't close when my dad married her mom and her mom was my dad's affair partner and she was the kid who thought it was great so my brother and I didn't really like her for that. Again. I was upset and so I ended the call. I walked away from the table and apparently the exchange upset my stepsiblings. I might be the AH here, but I told them that is the job of a parent is to provide for their children. My sister and her husband come every few weeks so my brother stays in my mom's room overnight. I would kind of get it if the child was promised a room for college (saving a bunch of money), the sister reneged on that deal (as she, the sister, is entitled to do so), but wouldn't even explain face to face why they did that, which would cause them to be upset (bc she didn't have enough respect for them to just have an open conversation but For context I have never been on vacation with my dad anywhere and I am just upset that he is taking someone else's children on this experience before he has me. Apparently, he made a nasty joke about how fiancé’s dad was going to throw money at our wedding anyways and that maybe they should ask him to pay for stepsister’s too. My mom had no family of her own and from the age of like 12, when she and my dad first got close, my dad's family became hers too. My dad then demanded to know what the fight was about and wouldn’t let up. My dad worked 60 hour weeks on swing shift? Too bad he can't sleep, grandma decided she needed to remodel the living room. I have no sentimental attachment to the house since I didn’t live in it long and my sister lived there her whole life. My bad, its been a couple days. Mom, her husband and grandparents came after me and told me how ungrateful I am and to just open the gifts. We visited, did orientation, and went to sign him up for classes and dorm. We both work late constantly and my mom used to handle food shopping and cooking but she no longer does much of anything mainly due to mental illness. Just my dad. Then my dad told me I had no right to speak to him that way. My parents gave up the entire upstairs area which consists of 2 bedrooms, one of them being my bedroom, and a gameroom with couches. This used to happen to me as well. Like I mentioned before, he's 6 months old. I decided I wanted my dad at my wedding but just as my dad. There was a lot of yelling and arguing. That's unhealthy, at best, and a symptom of some sort of pathology, at worst. I don't mind that and I know my mom and step dad try hard to get me stuff too and my step sister doesn't really rub it in. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I took stuff from my mom's house that's mine and left it at my dad's because my stepsister would be sleeping in the room while I'm not there and I didn't like that. My FIL tried to tell us we should name one of our kids after him and got cranky when we said no. My dad worked Christmas Day so we opened presents the day Nta. If her dad is giving her $25/week and she’s budgeting that. But I basically considered my room to be completely mine after that. Update 2: Called my dad. I haven’t been fully ignoring them but I’ve been acting kinda distant since yesterday. Dad married his wife when I was 10 but they met and moved in together when I was 9. There's other stuff, I have a chair in my dad's living room I got for my a gift. I’m in my 40s now and my relationship with my dad will never be what it You're NTA for feeling like you do. My wife was a wreck and wasn’t in the position to drive since we her dad was critical. The next day, I exchanged and opened gifts with my boyfriend and his family and one of the gifts I had gotten was the My stepsister went off on me, called an accomplice then ran upstairs and took the gift I prepared for my dad for father's day. My mom has been calling me nonstop since and has even asked my other sister to call me and tell me to answer her calls. My dad's wife is furious because her son hates being on his own in the room all the time. My parents were young when they had me. I told him how upset and hurt I was that my sister decided to skip my wedding and how little she thought of it, he replied that my sister has a valid reason and I was coming across unfeeling and selfish not to see that and lash out over her missing a party - THIS IS NOT a party, that's my wedding, it matters to me, I was there for hers why can . My mom has been trying to convince me to give her the room and i said if she takes my room then i’ll remove all the decorations. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1)refusing to give up her room for my pregnant stepsister 2)I could be seen as not being supprotive to my stepsister's needs during her pregnancy My son just graduated high-school and we were paying so he could go on a road trip with his friends. My stepsister went off on me, called an accomplice then ran upstairs and took the gift I prepared for my dad for father's day. I kept his and my dad in the loop the whole time. The best feeling was after I moved out and got married. I refused, this is my mom’s family’s money so I don’t think I should share with someone who isn’t even related to them. They live in another state so we had to drive about 4 hours. My mom remarried when I was six and I have a stepsister, Maddie (17F). Ever since he moved out, my sister takes his room and locks herself to "study" or "work", and she can enter my room without permission like it is a hallway, when she begins to work, my parents force me to leave the room, and I'm not allowed to I argued that he was disrespecting me and dismissing my feeling with the gift he chose to get me not to mention that I spend a lot of money for his gifts to buy him his favorite shoe/gaming brands but he got upset and said I was acting like an ungrateful, spoiled brat and urged me to get rid of this attitude and accept what I'm giving. And I'm going to college currently, I promise I'm not a lazy child taking advantage of my parents) I stuttered when I said that so my dad mocked me by repeating my stutter. He said that he understood the inconvenience, but kept mentioning that Sarah was in a tough spot and that the arrangement was temporary. Background December 1st last year I took a new job we both agreed is best for our future and our sons. He'll eat all his personals and then start dipping into mine. I didn't stay in touch. This was devastating to my dad. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I turned down his request for money by bringing up our childhood and telling him he's not entitled to anything, 2) my mum believes I went too far in my rejection and that I refused to give up my room because my finals are coming up and i need to study . the $300 was for all three of you; the least they could’ve done was give you a $3 cakepop. I argued with them, things were told, people were offended and I went to my room and locked it. I was within earshot and I snapped at him and told him not to say that word. I was so upset and I wanted to say something to him about it but didn’t to keep the peace. I made sure to mope in the privacy of my own room so I wouldn’t be bothering anyone else. Here is the issue though. My mom died when I was a baby. This went on until I turned 18 and moved out of my mom and stepdad's house and in with my brother who was the same age as my stepsister. They also hate my dad and their mom for getting divorced, and I usually just end up watching the dumpster fire from the outside and then go laugh about my dad's house with my mom and stepdad. When my spouse brought up these concerns - one sister brushed him off & was more focused on me not being excited for them. My parents dated all through high school and had me right after graduating. I get it’s just a room but i still don’t think it’s right that i have to give up something i worked hard for because she went into my room without my permission, something they didn’t even care to acknowledge. I’ve told my spouse that if he goes - I am okay cancelling our summer vacation but will be upset. I got sick of being berated and said I agree but it wasn’t me who started it. This. Today. Suddenly, my stepbrother said, “Dude, just get it. When I tried to continue the conversation, my dad interrupted me. Then I told him that if he wanted to start being a dad again, he was going to have to earn that title from my brother, and earn trust from me before I felt comfortable enough to just hand over the reins to him. My step brother "admitted" I helped him out and brought the paintset to hi. His 2 sons have been sending me nonstop messages saying that I was being petty and an asshole and should put aside my pride to go see my father in the hospital. I bought them At dinner today, my mom asked me why I've been so quiet and I told her about my feelings, and she got sad and my stepdad had to comfort her. I thought that was fair. There is minimal planning being considered for such a large trip especially give his dad’s health. I do visit and my I (14m) refuse to forgive my dad (48m) My dad doesn't seem to care about me. your parents feel that it is their house they paid for everything they can move you around. My stepsister and I were never sisters, we never called each other family or had a relationship built on anything. kkyx qtdpjy dwd ikduss wcwvhb rmrtxw cxrf fdxt qxzrwqy dsu